Hi all!
It's been so long since I've made a post! I've read several more books, kept writing, and made a VERY big life decision with my husband!
I'm so excited to finally tell you all that we've decided to adopt a baby! There are so many emotions wrapped up in this choice- excitement, joy, love, but also sadness as we learn about the grief that comes with adoption. I will mostly be keeping this private, as it is not only my husband and me involved- we will be welcoming a child that we want to ensure the privacy of and also their birth parents. We will be navigating a new family dynamic as we welcome them into our lives and want to make sure we do so in a safe and comfortable environment for everyone. I appreicate you respecting that so much. Don't worry- I'm sure I'll speak about adoption in general-- it's become such a huge part of lives (naturally!) and I've learned so much more than I thought I would.
We've heard it all from "It's cheaper to just get pregnant" to "Don't you want to try for your OWN child?" and while we know those questions come from a place of love, our answers will remain the same. Ryan and I have said we wanted to adopt since we started dating as teenagers, it's always been in our hearts. Growing up, our families were comprised of siblings, half siblings, step siblings, step parents, adoptees, and people who adopted. Family is so much more than blood to us. As for it being the "cheaper option," we have the means to pursue adoption and have struggled with infertility. Once we circled back to adoption, we knew it was the right choice for us. And regarding having our "own" child-- again, in our eyes, blood does not make a family. This child will be our child and we will love and care for them with everything we've got because they are our family.
Please don't take this as me saying "don't talk to me about adoption." I LOVE to talk about adoption! I just won't be sharing personal details and I appreciate you all respecting that.
Now, my book. Those who have followed my journey since the beginning know that I keep thinking I'll finish it and then I don't. But GUESS WHAT? I've dug deep into my story and figured it out! Something wasn't clicking and I think I've finally found what. Well, multiple whats. For one, I was following tropes and stereotypes too much, trying to force them and they didn't work. I slashed through my manuscript and took them out and feel so much better about it now. Secondly, I was afraid my story was boring and, heaven forbid, what if someone didn't like it?? I've finally accepted that someone (or a lot of someones) may not like it but that's okay. It will sting but I've created something that I'm proud of and I will hold on to that. Plus, I have a group of brutally honest friends that will tell me if it's terrible 😂 Lastly, I've learned that I write slow build stories. I like the reader to be able to live in the world and have a sense that something is going to happen, but not have that thing actually occur until the end. That makes me nervous because I know people like movement and action but I'm learning there may be other forms of that-- something lurking in the shadows, a hint of political unrest, cracks in friendships. We'll see if it works 😉 I'm not going to give a release date because that has been my downfall, but I WILL be showing you all my cover soon (by Covers by Violet/ @violet.book.design on instagram) and am SO EXCITED. It's gorgeous and I melt every time I see it 🫠 I also have a beautiful pieces I commissioned of my main characters by Will Hatch (@hatchatwork on instagram) and Sarah Crisp (@sarahkcrisp on instagram) that I wanted to share so long ago, and haven't found the right time to. But, it's almost here and I can't wait!
I've pulled back from social media to be more present in my life and it's been nice not worrying about what to post, numbers, etc. I'm still figuring how to balance that with needing to be present virtually while pursuing a career as an author. Aren't modern times fun (I think I just made myself sound very old)? Regardless, I'm always up to talk books and writing, so feel free to message me on insta or here!
I appreciate you all sticking with me. This community is incredible. I can't wait for Death Becomes You to be out and in your hands and I look forward to many more stories!
xo- Sarah
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